Posted by Kim
on January 09, 2000 at 22:34:12:
In Reply to: Three-Year Old Daughter with Possible ADHD posted by Shelly on January 08, 2000 at 22:29:01:
: Please help! I have three daughters, ages 10, 3, and 1. My 10-yr-old is normal except for having a bad attitude, which I think most 10-yr-olds go through. My 1-yr-old doesn't give us a bit of problem. My 3-yr-old, however, has been giving us problems, in a major way, since she was born. She is very rambunctious, and we have a very hard time controlling her. We put her to bed between 8 and 8:30 at night, but she doesn't go to sleep until 11:30 or 12 most nights. She wakes up really early in the mornings and won't take much of a nap, if any, during the day. She stays with my mom and dad while I work, and even them two together can hardly control her. My mom calls me at work crying several times a week because of things that Jeanette (my 3-yr-old) does (flooding the bathroom, dumping ashes out of the fireplace, kicking and hitting, and numerous other things). We've tried all forms of punishment, but any punishment at all seems to make it worse instead of better.
: To get to my point, I recently took her to her pediatrician, and after doing a 4 page checksheet, the pediatritian and I feel real strongly that she is ADHD. I've taken her to a psychologist for evaluation. We've been one time so far and are scheduled to go back in a few weeks. My major problem is strong opposition from family members and others. I am hearing nothing but negative remarks about my having her tested. Even though mom and dad have such a hard time with her, they wouldn't even answer the "childcare" questionnaire for ADHD on Jeanette honestly because they are afraid of her possibly being put on medicine. No matter how strongly I say I feel about getting Jeanette properly diagnosed for her sake and for the sake of my other kids, it's as if I'm speaking to a brick wall when talking about this subject. How can I get the support that I need from my family and friends)? Please e-mail me, if possible. I would love to talk with others who have a child that is ADHD and hear some advice. Thanks for listening!
Sound very much what I went through ten years ago. My family was upset at my son being diagnosed ADD. My father was a high school principal and he through a fit. Well, here we are ten years later. No one argues that fact that he is not ADD anymore. As soon as he was placed in a school setting it became very apparent. I myself was uneasy with the medication but a doctor told me it was very much like giving a child insulin if he/she was diabetic. And look at me now! The medication has worked so well for my son that I too (an ADD adult) am taking it. What a difference it has made in both our lives. I joined a local CHADD group when my son was diagnosed. It helped me get through my doubts and gave me support until my family finally came on board. Just feel lucky you have a diagnosis so soon in your childs life. The self esteem of a child who is always told they are "bad" is a crime. To know the reason helps one be sucure in who they are. Good luck. Kim