Posted by Kay
on January 11, 2000 at 12:20:49:
In Reply to: Re: Should I medicate 5 yr old daughter? posted by SCOTT on December 17, 1999 at 20:34:17:
: : My daughter has been diagnosed ADHD since age 3. We have tried her on several meds and all of them had bad side effects so we stopped giving it to her. NOw she is in kindergarten and I see that she cannot remain focused for anything- she really isn't hyper, just cannot pay attention. Does anyone know of a good med that I can ask doctor for with low to no side effects?
: HI, IM A FATHER WITH AN EX-WIFE THAT HAD MY SON DIAGNOSED WITH ADD. SINCE THIS HAS TAKEN PLACE hAYDEN NO LONGER EXIST. IVE SEEN MY OWN SON DIE WHILE LIVING. ADD IS A DOCTOR MADE DISORDER! I HAD ONLY A FEW WEEKS TO SHOW THAT HAYDEN WAS JUST A HIGH STRUNG KID. KIDS NEED TO BE WORE OUT IN THERE DAILY ACTIVATIES. YOU HAVE TO FIND MORE TIME AND BECOME (IF YOUR NOT ALREADY) AN ACTIVE AND MOBILE PERSON . SITTING (WATCHING TV) WILL NEVER WORK . IF YOU HAVENT ALREADY LOOKED INTO THIS PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO DO SO. MOST DOCTORS ARE PRO ADD . ALERGIES!!!!!!!!! AND ENVIORMENT. TOO MUCH CONFUSION IN THE HOUSE? TO MANY PARENTS? OLDER KIDS ACTING AS PARENTS? SEARCH EVERYWHERE BEFORE A DRUG IS USED. ADD DRUGS KILLS KIDS AS WE KNOW THEM
: I HOPE I DIDNT SCARE YOU THIS THING SUCKS AND MOST OF US DONT HAVE A SAY ABOUT IT
I too have a son that ever since he could walk, he was like a blur going from one room to the next. We could not go anywhere or do anything without me being so worn out both physically and mentally after chasing after him so much. My mother-in-law went through a time of thinking that he did not like her. He would not sit with her like the other grandchildren to read a book or play a game. I had to assure her over and over again, that it wasn't her. (Now he can't wait to get to MawMaw's house). If you could see our front and back doors, you would see that we had to put keyed locks on them to prevent him from going outside the house without supervision. There were some days that I thought I was going to lose my mind completly. All of my relatives who have ever babysat for him, have always made the comments that they don't understand how I can manage from day to day. When I picked him up, they were a frazled mess. He is now 6 and has been in school. I was so afraid that the first day he went to school that the teacher would be sending a note home telling me that I had to do something about this kid. It didn't happen the first day, it happened about the end of the first week. It was suggested that I have him tested for ADD. We all know what the result of that would be. The only course of action is to put the kid on drugs. That was when I decided to start doing some intesive research on my own. I have talked with the school officials, searched the internet looking for BOTH negative and positive articles regarding medications, been to the libraries, talked with personal friends who had children on medication already, and most importantly, talked with his own physician. I have come to the conclusion that medicating our children should be the absolute last resort. Especially after personally talking with other parents who have their children on Ritalin. I have witnessed some of the effects on two children (whose parents praise the Ritalin for saving them), but I'm sorry, it seems to me like the children are walking around like a couple of zombies. Yes, they were overly active, but now when you see them, they seem like they are off in la-la land somewhere. I think one of the most important things a parent should do before they put their child on any drug, is to seek out all information they can put their hands on and talk to professionals who are NOT in the psychiatric industry. Remember, they have a VESTED INTEREST. After all of the research that I have done and after consultations with his doctor we have choosen to try alternatives methods. We have done a number of things and I have seen a remarkable improvement over the past 6 months. One thing was to keep a tight watch over what he ate. I try not to allow to many things which are full of sugar and make sure that he eats a well-balanced diet. We started a new POSITIVE reinforcement program at home. Instead of dwelling on punishment (besides you can't keep a hyperactive child in a time-out chair) we concentrate on positive rewards for his good behavior. Pokemon cards work great. If he behaves in school, then he gets some kind of reward. If he can do it for a couple of days, then he gets a pack of Pokemon cards. We keep the rewards simple, but we set the goals for a very short time span. He has to see that the goal is reachable and for children at young ages, two or three days is a long long time. Along with this, his doctor suggested that we get him envolved in some type of outside activity that is organized. His doctor suggested a type of martial art. We choose Choi Kwang Do. He goes about 3 times a week and it gives him a place to vent some of that energy. I did not tell him about Choi Kwang Do ahead of time. We just went. I did not want him to get the idea that we were teaching him how to fight. That was not the reason. They do teach the martial art, but they place a temendous amount of incouragement on self discipline, personal development, self-esteem, honor, integrity, perserverance, etc. Along with this, we go out of our way to always provide incouragement and most importantly PRAISE PRAISE PRAISE for every good thing that he does. Just with these things alone, I have seen such a tremendous improvement. He is still active, no doubt about that, but instead of getting notes home from the teacher 3 times a week, I am receiving great comments from his teacher. I haven't received a bad note in almost 2 months. His work is also been very good. I'm certainly no doctor and I'm not saying that medication is never an option. I'm also not saying that what is working for me will work for everyone else. What I am saying is DON'T go by the advice of these psychiatric professionals alone. I know there will probably be plenty of people out there who would disagree, but I sincerely think that most parents take the word of the psychiatric professions much too quickly and they are looking for an instant cure. There is no such thing. No matter what course of action you take, it takes time and love and encouragement.