Posted by robin mc
on January 17, 2000 at 00:10:54:
In Reply to: Re: ADULT NEEDS HELP posted by mel on January 16, 2000 at 10:18:51:
: : HELP! I AM 36, SINGLE MOM OF 3 AND 13 YEAR OLD DAUGHTERS, ASSISTANT DA, DIAGNOSED LAST YEAR WITH ADD AND I FEEL LIKE I AM DROWNING. I HAVE BEEN PRESCRIBED ADDEROL, AND IT DOES SEEM TO HELP, BUT MY DOCTOR IS MORE OF A PEZ/MED DISPENSER THAN A SOURCE OF GUIDANCE. ALL SHE DOES IS REFILL MY PRESCRIPTION AND I WAS QUICK TO LEARN THAT THIS IS NOT A 'TAKE-A-PILL AND ALL IS GREAT' DIAGNOSIS. I OWN EVERY GET ORGANIZED BOOK THERE IS AND MY WHOLE LIFE I HAVE THOUGHT IF I CAN CATCH UP, IF I CAN GET EVERYTHING IN ORDER I WILL BE OK. I WILL NOT BE LAZY OR WORTHLESS OR STUPID. WELL, I AM NOT OK. I MAKE LIST AFTER LIST OF HOW TO DO IT, HOW TO GET IT ALL TOGETHER. BUT I CAN'T DO IT. AND I WANT TO BE ORGANIZED SO BADLY. FOR ME AND MY INCREDIBLE CHILDREN.
: : I GET OUT OF BED AND SIMPLY PUT ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF ANOTHER UNTIL ANOTHER DAY IS DONE AND I HAVE GOTTEN THE KIDS TO THEIR SCHOOL/DAY CARE (HOPEFULLY GETTING THE RIGHT ONE TO THE RIGHT PLACE), MADE IT THROUGH A WORK DAY WITHOUT EMBARASSING MYSELF, COMING HOME AND ATTEMPTING TO DO EVERYTHING THAT NEEDS TO BE DONE AT HOME AND DOING SO WITHOUT PUTTING MY KEYS IN THE FREEZER OR LEAVING MY COFFEE ON THE HOOD OF MY CAR . . AGAIN.
: : SORRY FOR THE RAMBLING MESSAGE, BUT THE BOTTOM LINE IS I NEED ADVICE FROM REAL PEOPLE WHO STRUGGLE WITH THIS TO TELL ME HOW THEY ORGANIZE THEIR LIVES. PRACTICAL ADVICE ON DAY TO DAY ACTIVITIES. PLEASE.
: : THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME.
: Your message could be me, I am also 36, single mom of 3 young childeren, diagonsed about a year ago with ADHD and taking Adderol.
: I don't know the boundries of these pages but I feel exactly like you do, but I feel my problem has to do more with depression because I have been on the Adderol and then gone off it for a few months ( and that was the time I really could see how much of a difference it did make in helping keep me focused in my life, as my house got a lot messier, me even more foregetful) but when I started back on it, things did get better but I still feel unorganized, and why I think the depression comes in is because I just don't have the energy to do all the stuff. You are a single mom with what sounds like a stressful job, I can relate, your brain and body can only do so much and we are not or should not try to be "superwomen".
: I have been taking Effexor an anti depressant for about a year, but this depression thing started in Oct, my doctor who knows me real well thinks it has to do with the weather and less sunlight. I ususally do get less energetic in the winter so I feel this will pass...
: Maybe you should look for a new doctor first of all, then do as I am slowly learning to do, accept that some things will not get done, sometimes I will have to spend 5-10 minutes searching for where I put something, my life will not be perfectly organized and I am going to have to learn to let go of that expectation. I have to make it comical (some of the things I do, forget etc) otherwise I would be going crazy..
: Sorry I don't have any advice on organization for you, just wanted to let you know there is someone else out there who feels a lot like you, and it is hard.
hello just wanted to write and say that my son is adhd and is 11 yrs old and i do have one more child in her teens yrs.i have had 2 yrs of hell and been depressed on top a very long story and maybe i can find some time to chat with you this week and talk more. but to the point, i think you need to put the will power and tell yourself that it is mind over matter and keep pushing for all that you want in life and yes find a good doctor that cares and will work with you and make sure your meds are right for you because as i tell my son you can be all that you want to be you just work at it harder if thats what it takes, it is like a lot of postive things that need to be said and no neg crap needs to be heard and you must be smart to be a assistant d-a . my son also takes (dextrot)please try to think positive that helps some. by the way drink black tea or green tea that is great for the alertness and drink alot of it. doctor told me about tea. please do take care i wish you the best.