Posted by Aaron
on January 20, 2000 at 03:08:00:
In Reply to: ADULT NEEDS HELP posted by rena on January 15, 2000 at 22:34:54:
It is extremely difficult to advise anyone how to organize an ADD-muddled life, since ADD is so inextricably linked to very personal issues and self-concepts. To be honest, the only thing that has worked for me is the discovery that there is nothing wrong with the way I think or handle problems. So much of my inability to conform to normal organizational expectations came from the fact that I was fighting so hard to do so. Every time I saw myself struggling to make things work, I was making the mistake of identifying "normalcy" as something other than what I was. There are two books on the market that rescued me from the brink of ADD-related suicidal depression. One is: YOU MEAN I'M NOT LAZY, STUPID, OR CRAZY? by Kate Kelly and Peggy Ramundo, a guide for adults coping with ADD and ADHD. The other, especially for moms, is OPERATING INSTRUCTIONS: A JOURNAL OF MY SON'S FIRST YEAR by Anne Lamott. She also writes a column for salon.com called "Mothers who Think." She writes so compellingly about the insanity of child rearing, then tempers her observations with the most hilarious, gentle insights about faith and human nature. She is a lovely author, and reading her words has helped me to find the humor and grace in my formerly desperate situation. Please take a bit of time to read both books-if nothing else, they will remind you to treat yourself with forgiveness and grace.