Posted by Heidi
on January 23, 2000 at 12:50:45:
In Reply to: Wife of ADD Husband posted by Victoria on January 18, 2000 at 11:13:12:
: Help! I am worn out dealing with ADD-I try to understand and try to accommodate and compromise-try to
: keep a sense of humor-try to "not sweat the small stuff" but it seems to be all one way. I am tired of job changes and moving-tired of conversations that last for a few seconds before he literally leaves the room-I am tired, just plain tired- any other spouses?
: Hi, I also am a significant other to young man affected with ADD. I understand all that you have said. Only it seems when it comes to conversations they seem to last forever, and jump all over the place.
Also when I am talking within a group of people with him, he always has to jump in with add-ons. I agree it does get extremely stressful at times.
: I have found that when I have something important that needs to be said I have to shut off the T.V., radio, or computer.
There is no talking about anything of importance if their is too much going on in the room.
: Patience and understanding are the key factors. We have to remember that it is also very frustrating for our partners as well.
: And yes it does seem to be all one way and from our perspectives we are always the ones making compromises and posting reminders, and keeping them on track.
But even if it isn't said too often or at all, they very much need and appreicitate what we do for them. I'm sure they think about telling us that more often than they actually do, but their thoughts are constantly interuppted.
: I know I wasn't able to give any real advice, but I can give you any support you may need, and let you know your not the only one out their that gets frustrated and fed up with this disease.