Posted by Sarah
on January 29, 2000 at 18:34:10:
In Reply to: Three-Year Old Daughter with Possible ADHD posted by Shelly on January 08, 2000 at 22:29:01:
: Please help! I have three daughters, ages 10, 3, and 1. My 10-yr-old is normal except for having a bad attitude, which I think most 10-yr-olds go through. My 1-yr-old doesn't give us a bit of problem. My 3-yr-old, however, has been giving us problems, in a major way, since she was born. She is very rambunctious, and we have a very hard time controlling her. We put her to bed between 8 and 8:30 at night, but she doesn't go to sleep until 11:30 or 12 most nights. She wakes up really early in the mornings and won't take much of a nap, if any, during the day. She stays with my mom and dad while I work, and even them two together can hardly control her. My mom calls me at work crying several times a week because of things that Jeanette (my 3-yr-old) does (flooding the bathroom, dumping ashes out of the fireplace, kicking and hitting, and numerous other things). We've tried all forms of punishment, but any punishment at all seems to make it worse instead of better.
: To get to my point, I recently took her to her pediatrician, and after doing a 4 page checksheet, the pediatritian and I feel real strongly that she is ADHD. I've taken her to a psychologist for evaluation. We've been one time so far and are scheduled to go back in a few weeks. My major problem is strong opposition from family members and others. I am hearing nothing but negative remarks about my having her tested. Even though mom and dad have such a hard time with her, they wouldn't even answer the "childcare" questionnaire for ADHD on Jeanette honestly because they are afraid of her possibly being put on medicine. No matter how strongly I say I feel about getting Jeanette properly diagnosed for her sake and for the sake of my other kids, it's as if I'm speaking to a brick wall when talking about this subject. How can I get the support that I need from my family and friends)? Please e-mail me, if possible. I would love to talk with others who have a child that is ADHD and hear some advice. Thanks for listening!
I have a 3 and a half yr. old that was dignosed with ADHD in October. He also was different from birth. At first I thought he was just a very strong-willed child but around 2 1/2 I was having the same bedtime problems as you described. I started suspecting ADD then because his entire behavior was out of control. My husband & I had taken parenting classes and were very consistent with our discipline. He didn`t seem to care that if he did "a" "b" was going to occur- he did it anyway. He also was very socially aggressive and couldn`t keep his hands off the other children he would get so excited. At 3 1/2 I took him to an ADD specialist. We tried Ritalin but it seemed to change his personality- it made him irritable and anxious but definitely less hyper. We switched to Adderall and it works pretty well. Unfortunately he also has a lot of "opposition" and tantrums severly and medication does not help opposition. Having a lot of structure in the day is extremely important too. I would encourage you to take her to a specialist who has treated young children. Good luck. It`s better not to even try explaining it to people who don`t understand. No one can understand how difficult a child like that can be until you`ve been there. Good luck!!