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Posted by Sarah on February 01, 2000 at 15:20:20:

In Reply to: ADD posted by Kat on February 01, 2000 at 09:28:29:

: I am desperate for advice. I am taking my 8 almost 9 year old daugther to Kansas University Medical
: Center for testing. I know she is ADD. I do not want to give her medication. Is there anything else I can
: do? I have a 4 year old son with Autism, that has done great w/ a GF/CF diet and supplements.
: I love my daughter so much. She cries all the time and ask me: Mom, why am I stupid, why can't I be
: popular, Why don't I have a best friend, why is school so hard, why can't I do anything good and Mom
: will you promise that you will always be there for me because all I have is you? She is breaking my heart
: and I don't know where to turn. I know alot of people take medication but I do not want to do this. I have
: talked to the school and begged for help and all they said is give her medication. She is not hyper but
: cannot focus, daydreams, no self esteem, very disorganized and is doing terrible in school. She is
: getting an A in spelling, B in reading (she can read well but if I ask her to tell me what she just
: ready, she doesn't have a clue) and D's in everything else. I try to work with her with her on her
: school papers she brings home but she just doesn't get it. We worked on a paper last night with 10
: problems regarding telling time . She really does not get it. Math and time are alot alike and she just
: d
esn't get it. She went to bed crying and holding her head saying "what is wrong with
: me and why am I so stupid"? It was so hard to go to work today because I just wanted to stay home
: with her and tell her how much I love her. I wish I could just quit work and home school her but I am the
: primary insurance person for our family. My husband works 6 days a week and only gets Sunday's
: off. I have asked for help from everyone (her school, counselors, doctor, my sons speech therapist, family,
: friends, my husband) and know one seems to have time to help. I am ready to admit myself in a hospital
: because I am going crazy. My children are my life and I am such a failure as her mother because I cannot
: help her. I work full time, work with my son (autism) all the time, try to work with my daughter, sale avon
: for extra money, help with my daughter girl scout troop and do mostly all the house work (laundry,
: cleaning, shopping etc.) and I can't do it anymore. Sometimes I think she would be better off with
: someone else who can help her more but I love her so much that I don't what I would do if I did not have
: her in my life. My husband is all talk he just says he will help and never does nothing. I do not want to
: fight with him anymore because he will never change. He does love his kids but has not energy to do
: anything except work. I pray every night for the strength to keeping because I am getting so weak and
: am hitting all dead ends. Without my children I have no life but right now with me they have no life. What
: do I do?

: Kat

I really feel for your predicament. I can`t help you with your decision to treat but I will be praying for you. When I was a little girl I struggled a lot with self esteem. I can tell you one thing that really helped me was being involved in church. I had a couple ladies in their 40s or 50s that acted as a mentor to me. Took me out to lunch or invited me to dinner with the rest of their family. Or to their children`s games. Do you know of any mom`s maybe slightly older who would be willing to love your child and take on this role. Even once a month may booster her self esteem and take some burden off you. You can only stretch so far..

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