Posted by Derek
on February 10, 2000 at 15:46:50:
In Reply to: Re: Son doesn't "fit-in"...therefore posted by Ekraft on February 09, 2000 at 14:38:42:
: : : Hello... First time posting here....was told recently by teacher that my son should go to doctor with checklist for ADD.
: : : Progress reports show lack of using time wisely or productively....
: : : He scores well in all areas excluding math...in which he fails to complete tests.
: : : He is a 3rd grader. In G/T classes and I am wondering why the system is so bent on labeling and medicating kids for being kids....
: : : He is not the kind of boy that likes baseball, but rather the type to take stuff apart, and put back together. He is on the lazy side, and the school wants to label him as ADD, but I don't understand why?
: : : Is there anyone that can help me to understand their way of thinking, or how to deal with them on what they want out of my son?
: : : As far as the checklist, or it seeming to look like he may have ADD, I think that it shows more of a Self-Esteem problem than anything....which I can totally understand...But should you medicate a young person for such a thing?
: : : Any comments are appreciated
: : I don't know if your son has ADD or not but I do know that it in no way has to be a bad thing to be diagnosed with it. I was not tested and Diagnosed until I was in my twenties and I wonder sometimes how much better I could have done in shcool if I had been discovered earlier.
: : I never showed any signs of hyperactivity and if anything could have been labeled a dreamer, but even that I did good at fitting in.I do not know what it would be liek to find out when you are young and how that would shape identity but all that I can think is that more knowledge
: : is always good in the long run. Do the other senareos work for your son, is there any other credable reason he should have self esteam issues, and is there any reason that he should be lazy as you put it. I would say get him checked out and dont except it as bad news if he is, he is
: : the same kid as always you would just have a filter by which to understand some of his actions. Good Luck and God Bless
: I appreciate your response, and I didn't mean to sound against a diagnosis... I know how my son is, and as for lazy, I mean layed back (alot)..It isn't meant as a slam, I was trying to be honest about how he can be when it comes to something he doesn't have an interest in...
: The math assignments are timed tests, and he doesn't complete them in school.. Yet , the same questions given to him here at home, and he completes them in the amount of time given at school..
: And as far as self-esteem, kids can be kids, and he isn't as big as the other kids in class..so I would guess he may get some name-calling and so forth...
: I was a daydreamer in school as well, and had been teased about things also..
: I am taking him to a doctor for a physical, and will ask the doctor about certain things. I do want to give him the best of school, I may have just researched alittle too much in this ADD and developed some doubts..
I would tend to agree with Mary who is posting some thoughts in response to you first post. The tests are hardly invasive and do not reqire of the person much that is threatening.When you say that his behavior is not consistant and he is not working up to his potentiol, that is exactly what me teachers wouls say. I would start out the semester great but about three weeks to a month down the road I would start getting incompletes and fail.ir can certainly all be part of it.