Posted by Ekraft
on February 16, 2000 at 06:41:53:
In Reply to: Re: Son doesn't "fit-in"...therefore posted by Renee on February 11, 2000 at 10:48:16:
: : : : : Hello... First time posting here....was told recently by teacher that my son should go to doctor with checklist for ADD.
: : : : : Progress reports show lack of using time wisely or productively....
: : : : : He scores well in all areas excluding math...in which he fails to complete tests.
: : : : : He is a 3rd grader. In G/T classes and I am wondering why the system is so bent on labeling and medicating kids for being kids....
: : : : : He is not the kind of boy that likes baseball, but rather the type to take stuff apart, and put back together. He is on the lazy side, and the school wants to label him as ADD, but I don't understand why?
: : : : : Is there anyone that can help me to understand their way of thinking, or how to deal with them on what they want out of my son?
: : : : : As far as the checklist, or it seeming to look like he may have ADD, I think that it shows more of a Self-Esteem problem than anything....which I can totally understand...But should you medicate a young person for such a thing?
: : : : : Any comments are appreciated
: : : : First of all don't be so quick to think he doesn't have ADD. My son is also bright when it comes to certain things like computers and has an awesome memory. I would never have even suspected ADD if a teacher hadn't suggested it for the things they were noticing in school. Why not take your son to the doctor and ask for a referral to a clinic that tests for ADD. If he does have ADD no one says you have to medicate as their are altenatives to try. Wouldn't it be better to get him tested and should he have ADD give him all the help you can?? Would you not test your child for something like diabetes just because "you don't think they have it"?? I for one had never given ADD a thought for my son as I always thought of ADD as strictly ADHD. Good Luck.
: : : Thank you for sharing your thoughts about this...I am taking him to the doctor. I am not saying that he isn't having difficulties with attention level. Obviously, since he won't complete a test , he is. But he is also choosing what he won't complete... And it's not consistant either....His tests were fine before Christmas, but slacked off after the break.
: : : If i thought that the doctor could take a blood sample to test him for ADD.. I would, no doubt, have him tested...I don't want him to go through psychological tests if there isn't a need for it.
: : : I said this before, that I may have researched alittle too much in this topic and maybe I am just having doubts about what ADD is really about.
: : After reading more of your posts I do have a few comments. Your son may do fine on timed tests at home because this is a 1:1 situation and there are no distractions like there are in school such as other kids turning pages, a teacher walking around, coughing or sneezing etc. When there are distractions like this an ADD child totally loses his train of thought and has a hard time getting back on task. Also testing for ADD is not a psychological test totally. They use a computer screen to administer the tova test which involves reaction time and ability to stay on task as well other things. I wanted to clarify this since many people seem to think that testing for ADD involves all these psychological tests which in fact that is a very small part of it.
: Hi, I can't offer any help, but I've been following this post and would really appreciate it if you could let me know how things went after you take your son to the doctor. My daughter's, 2nd grade,teacher wanted to have her evaluated for ADD. After many sessions with an ADD counselor we found out that my daughter wasn't so much ADD as she just needed to believe in herself and encouraged. The teacher sends home daily reports on how she is doing and this seems to keep her on task. However, I am facing the same thing with my son who is Kindergarten. He has been very hyper, will not take responsibility for his actions, "I didn't do it" or "It was an accident". The teacher is basically telling me to get my kid on Ridlin or get him out of her classroom. I have trouble with him at home to a certain extent, but I also see how much he concentrates on building things, he is very creative, and how empathetic he can be when "mom doesn't feel good". I really would like to know how it goes with you. Thanks
The doctor took a look at my sons report cards, and progress reports,and asking several questions of his own, he did not look at the checklist for ADD. He asked some questions about what could be causing any disruptions lately, and gave my son a physical. After seeing his grades, and progress reports , he concluded no add.. He did say there are some kids he does treat for ADHD with success.. But don't let the teacher(s) get you feeling down.
Hey, kids are kids.. and we all have been there. Go with your heart, and try talking with family members ... It helped me..
Teachers are being conditioned to request ADD check to the parent before they disclipline in other ways...And I say shame on the teacher that turns her back on the child!!!! I don't know if I would want her to teach mine, especially in the first years...Best of Luck to you! And be proud of your kids...encourage them to be who they are, not what others want them to be.
This is just my opinion.