Posted by Sue
on February 26, 2000 at 18:58:45:
Been lurking for 10 days now hopeing somebody would post usuable info for me
but I guess it isn't going to happen.
The school called a meeting with me last week and wants to test my daughter
for ADD. This kind of came as a bolt out of the blue.
She's 7 yrs old, in the second grade. Her work is good. She is not
disruptive but busy. She does have trouble writing on the lines and her
handwriting is messy. She does have trouble with spelling and reading.
Reading teacher says she's behind but only a tiny bit. All teachers and aids
do say she is not a candidate for retention. The concern is mainly with her
small motor skills.
The school intends to start testing after vacation this week.
I'm trying to take a "wait and see" attitude as far as the testing goes but
I'm totally nervous now. The school psychologist is famous for his ritalin
giving. There is a very disproportionate number of kids on meds in the
school. Some of the grades have over half!!!
I do see what they are pointing out as far as her writing and spelling. Some
of her actions at home suggest ADD as well. Chances are I am ADD been
reading some of the stuff out there and it all fits, way too well. Haven't
taken it all in yet but I now have a name for my demon.
I asked the school if a tutor would help and they said no. Nothing wrong
with her work. I live near a teachers college and it would be easy to find
an elementary ed. student to come for a little twice a week and help her
with writing and spelling.Almost seemed liked the special ed teacher had
already made up her mind.
She seems to be able to spell most times if I give the words to her orally
but putting them to paper she falters. An outside person would be fun to her
and she would look foward to something like that.
I want only the best for her but I'm scared.
What do I watch for as far as the school goes?
What do I watch for with her?
My daughter is more pressing but where do I get help for myself?
I'm 41 yrs old. None of this exsisted when I was a kid. Only the really
disruptive kids were looked at. I was in the top 5% in the school system as
far as intelligence goes so a breezed through most of my years unoticed. My
teen years hit and I spun out of control.
It's blown my college education, got me thrown out of HS, messed up good
My daughter is set. Her father has very good insurance through the state.
Unfortunatley we are not married and I have nothing.
I have noticed that I am withdrawing more in the last year. Getting worse
almost like when I was a teen again. I still function but really would
rather never leave the house. Used to be a cop and froze up when the chief
tried to make me do a radio commercial. He shipped me off to psychiatrist
who specializes in cops and the Dr said I was a social phobic. Nothing
horrid. Just extremely shy. I fought my phobia by learning how to dispatch
the different police cars in our area and I probably could do a radio
commercial now without a problem but that's just the tip of the iceberg and
over and done with.
Now I work at Dunkin Donuts and barely make enough to make ends meet.
Chances are daughter's father is ADD to. He won't contribute even an opinion
to any of this. He lives with us but doesn't deal with anything. Withdraws
into his little fantasy world he has made. Ocassionally he comes out with
flashes of brilliance or energy but nothing ever comes of it.
who has done more reading in the last 10 days than in the last 10 yrs.