Posted by Debbie
on March 22, 2000 at 01:05:47:
In Reply to: Refusing to take meds posted by Sandra on March 21, 2000 at 10:03:17:
: I have a 19 y/o son who is in community college and all year long he has refused to take his meds. He knows that he needs the meds to stay focused but sees the meds as a control over him. He says that his grades are fine but then later they come in all bad. He says that he wants to stay in school but refuses the meds. Does anyone out there have a similar situation? We tell him that like an alcoholic he must want to be better in order to help himself. He doesn't want any intervention by the guidance folks or the 504 monitors. Only when things get totally out of control does he ask for help. When we help he says to back off and quit trying to control him. Any guidance???
Well, you know I am 22 and have ADD. I have not taken my meds in a couple of years. I went to a very prestegious school for my first two years in college and only took it when I needed it then. I hated taking it. It makes your heart rate speed up and I felt sick all the time because of my high blood pressure from it. I have learned that for me it was a decission based on research and hope for myself. My parents did not want me off it because this school was so expensive and they did not want me to waste this chance! I did not. I did better there than I am doing at my current university which has to do with me being sick of it more than anything. Keep up your supporting him, but remember that he knows how he feels. Have you tried other meds that may not have as many side effects? After taking the meds since I was 8 I know that now I wish I had had meds with less side effects. I would take it again if I saw that I needed it. Has he taken study skills classes. These tend to help. People usually see it if they need help there. The one I took was challanging. Investigate all options but most of all be there for him and support him. Let him see where you think he has gone wrong. BUt remember that people with ADD kind of block things out selective hearing. Some times a gentle nudge is best, not a shuve!!!
Hope I helped!