Posted by Mary
on May 07, 2000 at 21:01:46:
In Reply to: RE:SORRY TO BE SO HARSH - MARY posted by CONCERNED GRANDPARENT on May 07, 2000 at 19:56:18:
: YOUR CHILD MAY VERY WELL BE IN NEED OF MEDICATION....HOWEVER, FROM ALL YOU'VE SAID....WE HAVE THE EXACT SAME CHILD IN THIS HOUSEHOLD.......THE CHILD IS NOW OFF ALL MEDS AFTER 5 YEARS ON......WE FOUND THAT HOMEWORK IS A BIT OF A STRUGGLE ON OR OFF THE MEDS....BUT IS GETTING EASIER ALL THE TIME..THE ONLY DIFFERENCE IS THAT NOW WE ARE DEALING WITH THE CHILD AND THE CHILD'S PERSONALITY, WHICH CAN CHANGE WITH BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION.... ( BY BOTH PARENT & CHILD )ONE SOLUTION MAY BE DOING HOMEWORK AT A MORE REASONABLE TIME.....MOST CHILDREN ARE SLUGGISH AFTER DINNER... AS A NURSE YOU SHOULD KNOW THIS....IT IS ALSO INTERESTING THAT YOU CAN BE WRITING ON THIS BOARD AND WORKING WITH YOUR CHILD AT THE SAME TIME.. IT SPEAKS VOLUMES....HOW OLD IS THE CHILD? DOES THE CHILD KNOW WHAT YOU ARE READING AND WRITING ABOUT? IF HE/SHE DOES, DON'T YOU THINK THAT THIS PUTS MORE EMPHASIS ON HOW HE FEELS ABOUT HIMSELF? DON'T YOU THINK THAT SEEING YOU READING AND WRITING ABOUT THIS IN HIS PRESENCE WILL CAUSE LOWER SELF ESTEEM? CHILDREN, IN GENERAL, NEED PRAISE AND ONE ON ONE TIME... PEOPLE ON INSULIN HAVE NO CHOICE....DIABETICS NEED INSULIN TO LIVE......WE HAVE CHOICES...THERE ARE MANY WAYS FOR BOTH YOU AND YOUR CHILD TO COPE... GETTING THE SCHOOLBAG PUT TOGETHER THE NIGHT BEFORE AND LEAVING IT NEAR THE DOOR WAS ONE WAY WE LEARNED TO MAKE MORNINGS EASIER....IT JUST TOOK A LITTLE "TOGETHER" TIME THE NIGHT BEFORE.....ALSO, PLANNING WHAT THE CHILD WILL WEAR THE NEXT DAY AND LAYING IT OUT WAS A BIG HELP....LASTLY, SETTING THE CLOCK A LITTLE EARLIER WALKING THE CHILD THROUGH MORNING PREPARATIONS FOR A WHILE IS A BIG HELP...IT SEEMS THAT THE MEDS ARE NOT REALLY DOING MUCH TO HELP WITH HOMEWORK TIME...IT REALLY WOULDN'T HURT TO TRY DIFFERENT OPTIONS.....
: BASICALLY, WE NEED TO STOP FEELING SORRY FOR OURSELVES. THESE CHILDREN WILL SURVIVE....IF THAT WEREN'T SO THEN WHERE ARE ALL THE PEOPLE WHO SUFFERED WITH THIS DREADED " DISORDER" FOR THE PAST CENTURY?? I'M SURE SOME OF THEM TOOK A WRONG PATH...BUT THEN, THERE ARE THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE WITH ABOVE AVERAGE IQ'S WHO ARE FILLING OUR JAILS AT THIS TIME......AND THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE WHO WERE DIAGNOSED WITH ADHD AS ADULTS WHO ARE DOCTORS, LAWYERS, AND UPSTANDING CITIZENS...THE PROBLEM IS THAT SOMETIMES TOO MUCH INFORMATION CAN HINDER US....SOMETIMES IGNORANCE IS REALLY BLISS.....TOO MUCH READING AND TRYING TO MAKE EVERYTHING BETTER " RIGHT NOW".....INSTANT FIXES LIKE MICROWAVE FOOD IS NOT ALWAYS BETTER THAN SLOW COOKING..WE NEED TO SLOW DOWN.
Wow nothing like have someone yell twice in one day (all capital letters) and try to make you feel guilty for trying to help your child. I am happy that you are able to get the concentration out of your child to accomplish the normal tasks of homework and everyday living. I have seen the pro's and con's on medication in the young and old. Our other child needs to be tested for ADD which is set up for this summer. Will I put her on meds if the testing proves positive?? Only if I feel it is medically necessary. Believe me I don't think meds should be used unless necessary and it my son's case that anwer for me is YES. Best of luck for you and your child.