Posted by CkinUsa
on May 26, 2000 at 15:57:12:
In Reply to: Eight year old boy wuth ADHD posted by Tim on April 19, 2000 at 14:15:25:
: I have an eight year old son. His school referred me to a psychologist for testing due to behavioral problems, and he has been diagnosed with ADHD and ODD. His grades are A's, but his behavior is a problem in the classroom. His achievement test scores are extremely high (98-99 percentile) and his IQ is 148. At home, he has been sort of a behavioral problem, but he is an only child. My wife is a stay at home mother, and works with him on his assignments and watches his behavior. She and I had a conference with his teacher this morning, and she thinks he should be medicated. The psychologist thinks that medication might be worth a try, and has referred me to a child psychiatrist. Everything seems all right now, but my son says he doesn't want to take medication. I am concerned because we feel it might help him with problems he experiences. I feel sad when I see him working on homework and throw temper tantrums. I feel bad that my wife has to watch him do that every day.
: Does anyone have any advice, or has anyone been in a similar situation such as mine? Please advise us.
My son sounds very much like yours...we've had alot of experiences thru the years...The boy is so bright and is quite manipulative it sounds like he may be getting the attention that alot of these kids crave, but for the inappropriate reasons. It has been a life saver for us......Believe in the term "Natural Consequences" and enforce it. Do not reward the tantrums with"what's bothoring you".......teach him alternatives......there are plenty of good books out there..............we learned the hard way by ignoring it and medicating, when our biggest changes have been how we now expect him to act like his age, and appropriately express his anger in words, drawings, etc. often it comes out when not addressed the direct route.....go on a walk, play a simple not to complicated game and don't begin with "what's wrong with you"........Try reflecting what you may think HE may be feeling and relate it to how you can see why he may be feeling that way because one time...............and i felt the same..................the books I do not have exact title.......has alot to do with YOUR CHILDS SPIRIT. Good Luck ( by the way our boy tested out bright also)