Posted by Linda
on August 09, 2000 at 22:30:10:
In Reply to: Re: Behavioral modification and family therapy posted by joanne on January 22, 2000 at 09:49:02:
: I have a 10 year old son with ADD. I saw signs of an attention problem when he was only three. I started an evaluation with Early Intervention and the results were not conclusive. They felt there was a chance that he was just an immature little boy. However at our persistance they did give him services and followed his progress. It was not until he was in First grade, that his teacher agreed with us, and further testing was done and he was put into special ed. Through all of this, the one thing that helped, was behavior modification techniques. WE still use alot of them today. At present, the school is suggesting we consider medication, we are going to try a more holistic approach. As far as behavior modification goes, the following helped us.
First, you must set the boundries for your child. My son could not function unless he had parameters. I would use the following, the rules are... As long as I stated the guidlines, he could stay within them. I also work on a reward system. He had an opportunity to earn points, stars etc. for achieving a goal. The goal could be as simple to us as staying in his chair at school. I made a weekly calendar for his teacher. Everyday that he was in control, she gave him a star. At the end of the week, I would then reward him. In first grade it might have been for 3 out of the 5 days. I then worked up until he got stars for all five days. He is now in fifth grade and I do a chart at home. Here he has the opportunity to earn points for different things. It could be for doing jobs at home or for doing great in reading etc. I also give him responsibility. As they get older, they do realize what is going on. Self asteem is very important. I have my son with ADD sit and let my younger child read to him. They don't sit for long, but he is sitting. I also get him toys that encourage sitting and concentration, ie> legos and computer educational games, I love Math Blaster and Reading Blaster. They are very quick and annimated. I also give in to game boy because it does get him to concentrate. I also encourage him and praise him alot. He has a self confidence problem. I look for things that he does well and overly praise him to build his confidence. Finally, I am very protective of who he plays with. I know it sounds terrible. However, he can not pull himself back when situations get out of control. I therfore make sure he plays with children who can control themselves. I have gone so far as to request the school to seperate him from certain children. I have been lucky that the school is very receptive and open. Good luck, I hope this helps
: My ADD-diagnosed 11 year old daughter will be started on adderol(sp?) after a couple of weeks of doing a checklist at school while "unmedicated" to see if there is an improvement. I have made an appt. with the psychologist that did her testing for family counseling, as we all need to learn how to deal with her situation. My 14 year old son has difficulty getting along with her, and my husband and I are frustrated in trying to help her with her problems. I was wondering if any of you out there have had any success with family counseling and/or behavior modification techniques? Any advice or ideas about things we could do as a family, or any particular strategies for behavior modification? Also, can anyone recommend a good book co-authored by a teenager for teenagers with add? Thank you and God Bless you! (even if you don't have any ideas!)
: : I have an add 4 yr old and I do day care for him.. I know his mom denys the fact he has it.. I went to the library and looked up add, and ask the librarian to help you find a book that includes a video tape .. there may be more than one.. one of them gave me some info on instead of just saying "no" - to make a specific request and make sure they know or understand it.. it is so easy to just say "no" but with add the children ned to know first what is expected of them and then they can see what they need to do..