Posted by Susan
on November 15, 2000 at 12:38:03:
In Reply to: Re: ADULT NEEDS HELP posted by Gwen on January 25, 2000 at 08:12:04:
: : : I just came across this site and recognized myself in your message. I am 43, two children and currently on leave from work. I was recently diagnosed with ADD and have tried various meds. I originally thought my disorganization was due to depression. I tried Prozac and Zoloft and couldn't tolerate them. They did help me to focus a bit better. I recently tried Wellbutrin. I began to accomplish so much but I was terribly angry and depressed. I thought it may be the emotional result of realizing that so much of my frustration may have been unnecessary. However, at my doctor's urging, I lowered the dosage of wellbutrin and improved, thus, the anxiety and anger were due to the medication. My next step will probably be to try effexor. The best the my doctor did for me was to recommend Sari Solden's book Women with Attention Deficit Disorder. The parallels between her life and mine were amazing. Definately an epiphany. Forgive yourself about your messy house, lack of focus, etc. Concentrate on finding the right medication because it makes all of the rest so much easier. Personally, I am just so relieved that there is a physiological problem which causes many of my problems. The biggest thing which helps me is to keep my sense of humor. If I stopped seeing the humor in my pathetic attempts at housekeeping, lost "how to get organized books" which are later found in the heaps of clutter,conversations going on in my head while I'm trying to converse with someone, etc. I don't know how I'd cope.
Take care- Susan HELP! I AM 36, SINGLE MOM OF 3 AND 13 YEAR OLD DAUGHTERS, ASSISTANT DA, DIAGNOSED LAST YEAR WITH ADD AND I FEEL LIKE I AM DROWNING. I HAVE BEEN PRESCRIBED ADDEROL, AND IT DOES SEEM TO HELP, BUT MY DOCTOR IS MORE OF A PEZ/MED DISPENSER THAN A SOURCE OF GUIDANCE. ALL SHE DOES IS REFILL MY PRESCRIPTION AND I WAS QUICK TO LEARN THAT THIS IS NOT A 'TAKE-A-PILL AND ALL IS GREAT' DIAGNOSIS. I OWN EVERY GET ORGANIZED BOOK THERE IS AND MY WHOLE LIFE I HAVE THOUGHT IF I CAN CATCH UP, IF I CAN GET EVERYTHING IN ORDER I WILL BE OK. I WILL NOT BE LAZY OR WORTHLESS OR STUPID. WELL, I AM NOT OK. I MAKE LIST AFTER LIST OF HOW TO DO IT, HOW TO GET IT ALL TOGETHER. BUT I CAN'T DO IT. AND I WANT TO BE ORGANIZED SO BADLY. FOR ME AND MY INCREDIBLE CHILDREN.
: : : I GET OUT OF BED AND SIMPLY PUT ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF ANOTHER UNTIL ANOTHER DAY IS DONE AND I HAVE GOTTEN THE KIDS TO THEIR SCHOOL/DAY CARE (HOPEFULLY GETTING THE RIGHT ONE TO THE RIGHT PLACE), MADE IT THROUGH A WORK DAY WITHOUT EMBARASSING MYSELF, COMING HOME AND ATTEMPTING TO DO EVERYTHING THAT NEEDS TO BE DONE AT HOME AND DOING SO WITHOUT PUTTING MY KEYS IN THE FREEZER OR LEAVING MY COFFEE ON THE HOOD OF MY CAR . . AGAIN.
: : : SORRY FOR THE RAMBLING MESSAGE, BUT THE BOTTOM LINE IS I NEED ADVICE FROM REAL PEOPLE WHO STRUGGLE WITH THIS TO TELL ME HOW THEY ORGANIZE THEIR LIVES. PRACTICAL ADVICE ON DAY TO DAY ACTIVITIES. PLEASE.
: : : THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME.
: : Your message could be me, I am also 36, single mom of 3 young childeren, diagonsed about a year ago with ADHD and taking Adderol.
: : I don't know the boundries of these pages but I feel exactly like you do, but I feel my problem has to do more with depression because I have been on the Adderol and then gone off it for a few months ( and that was the time I really could see how much of a difference it did make in helping keep me focused in my life, as my house got a lot messier, me even more foregetful) but when I started back on it, things did get better but I still feel unorganized, and why I think the depression comes in is because I just don't have the energy to do all the stuff. You are a single mom with what sounds like a stressful job, I can relate, your brain and body can only do so much and we are not or should not try to be "superwomen".
: : I have been taking Effexor an anti depressant for about a year, but this depression thing started in Oct, my doctor who knows me real well thinks it has to do with the weather and less sunlight. I ususally do get less energetic in the winter so I feel this will pass...
: : Maybe you should look for a new doctor first of all, then do as I am slowly learning to do, accept that some things will not get done, sometimes I will have to spend 5-10 minutes searching for where I put something, my life will not be perfectly organized and I am going to have toHi learn to let go of that expectation. I have to make it comical (some of the things I do, forget etc) otherwise I would be going crazy..
: : Sorry I don't have any advice on organization for you, just wanted to let you know there is someone else out there who feels a lot like you, and it is hard.
: :Hi there,
: Iam A 44 yr. old female just diagnosed. I've wasted so much of my life 'spinning my wheels' Isuffer from P.T.S.S. as well due to my warped judgement in the past. It's hard not to self blame, but therapy is helping. When I got the results of my psyche. tests I experienced that 'aha'they talk about. I mourn for what I have lost,but with treatment, look forward to a more productive future and less FRUSTRATION! I sympathize and would like to hear from others, especilly in my 'neck of the woods'.