Posted by Heather
on November 16, 2000 at 18:38:22:
In Reply to: Re: Is it really ADD or just a cop-out posted by Mary on November 16, 2000 at 10:19:44:
: : For the past two years my son has been falling behind in school. We thought maybe we should him back in the second grade this year. We have been looking into several different reasons why he is unable to focus, remember, or learn. He is a sweet boy and is frustrated with his own inabilities. I worry that when you aren't sure what is holding a child back, the Doctors and teachers are quick to diagnose "ADD/ADHD". I am also worried about medicating him everyday, and will he become addicted? I just want the best for him and I want him to be proud of himself. I would move any advice from a parent who is currently going through this or a doctor who really understands this.
: : Thanks,
: : Brandie
: Your first step if ADD is suspected is to take him to a clinic that does ADD testing and have him tested. Once you have a clear cut yes he has ADD or no he doesn't have ADD via the test results you can look into your options and go from there. Testing was recommended for both of my kids and one tested positive for ADD and one tested negative for ADD. The child that does not have ADD had ADD tendencies but was not truely ADD so you can see how important proper testing is. One thing I would never do is let my child be labled ADD or ADHD without the test results on file to positively show that this is what he/she has. Ask your doctor for a referral to a competent testing center and have your son tested. Hopefully this well help some.
The next thing you have to do is educate yourself on the subject. It is a great start that you are here and asking questions about it but I wouldn't let your opinion come from us. The public libraries are a great place to find information. There are a lot helpful books, written by highly educated and experienced people, that can help you in dealing with your son. They can give you ideas on how to deal with the schools and teachers, how to get him to do his chores at home, and how to improve the way you both interact. But it isn't a horrible thing if your son does have ADD and I hate it when people see it as a downfall. Yes he may be distractable and forgetful, but there are so many great traits that people with ADD exhibit. We can multi-task like computers, we are incredibly creative thinkers because our brains can do some pretty random processing. I feel blessed to have ADD b/c it has helped make me a strong person and b/c I know my strengths and weakness better than most people do. So either way it will be okay for your son. Just learn a little more about the subject and you guys will be fine.