Posted by Susan
on December 03, 1999 at 21:03:07:
In Reply to: Re: Basic ADD/ADHD Facts for parents with children diagnosed ADD/ADHD posted by Wanda on December 03, 1999 at 12:51:38:
I also have a 6 year old who has been diagnosed with ADHD. I have done a lot of research as well. In addition to my research, I also have a brother with ADHD who was not diagnosed as such until 14 years of age (20 years ago, they didn't know as much about it as they do now).
While I understand your concerns about over-medicating your children, I think that sometimes there is no alternative. My mother went through life (until my brother was 14) thinking that my brother's behavior was her fault. My childhood was a constant daily battle which my brother was always at the center of.
My son had been a difficult child since birth, but when he started school last year, everything began to "hit the fan". He was unable to participate in any group activities, but did well when there were only one or two other childen. Not ideal, since there were 25 children in his class.
After a lot of work with the school, a pediatric neurologist, and counseling, he is now in a different elementary school. He works in a much smaller class (10 students) with one teacher and three aides. He still goes to "specials" (art, music, gym, etc.) with a "regular" class (for lack of a better word).
He is also taking Ritalin 4 times a day. He is too young to learn to keep himself in control. He is beginning to realize when he is losing control of things, but I'm sure it will be a long while before he can do it without meds.
I believe the only reason my brother learned to keep things in control is because he went into the Marine Corps. He had to do it, or else!
I guess my point is that there really are children who need medication. Please don't take all the responsibility on yourself. Your son can't help it. I think that's one of the reasons I have learned to have such patience with my son. I know he needs meds, at least for now. He also gets a lot of attention, a huge amount of love, and parents that are trying their damnedest to help him through this.
Please feel free to contact me if I can be of any help.
: : I appreciate your research and information. I am struggling with my son who is 6 and not conforming to the classroom rules as he should. He is incredibly bright and when he decides to do his work he is wonderful. After reading this I think that the problems is us, his parents, not him. Thanks Again
: Don't take it all on your shoulders! The problem also lies in our school systems, pharmaceutical companys, psychologists and doctors that are, at best, ignorantly pressing forward with increasing numbers of drugged school children. Behavior modification therapy and counseling should be our first line treatments.
: I have a six-year old boy, and you described him perfectly, too. If you would like, e-mail me at Wyldcolts@aol.com and we can compare notes. I am continuing my research and I would like to hear your ADD/ADHD story. When how and by whom (teacher, doctor, etc) was your son first diagnosed? What treatments were suggested?
: Good luck and best wishes, Wanda