Posted by Victoria
on August 31, 2000 at 14:28:26:
In Reply to: Re: advice please. Wife hit bottom?--Victoria posted by d.c on August 31, 2000 at 07:42:58:
: reading your e-mail reminded me so much of my self that I had to responed.do you think of yourself as an addict? I realize I am,but for noe i like to call myself a functioning addict(I know deniel is a killer) it works for me today. Who knows what will happen tommorow. Richard , all the sleeping, and throwing up sound to me as if your wife is trying to kick all on here own. I sincerly hope everything works out for you. You sound like a stand-up guy, maybe if my husband took and active interest in my recovery i would be in a better spot right now. IF YOU LOVE HER DO WHAT IT TAKES TO HELP HER!!!
: : : thanks in advance
: : : richard
: : Dear Richard,
: : Wow. No, you cannot handle it yourself. No, you can't handle it at home.....
: : Why did the doc prescribe such meds? I don't know. I have a psychiatrist. I have a little problem with marijuana. I lie to him, and tell him that I'm not smoking, so he won't take me off my meds. (Zoloft, Ativan, Prosom). He said a good psychiatrist won't treat an underlying disorder (alcoholism, addiction), with meds, even if someone is depressed. What worries me the most though, is the DEADLY combo of alcohol and drugs. You can't smoke a joint, take a Xanax, and die. You WILL die if you mix Xanax, Prozac, and pain-killers. Why is she on pain meds???? Knowing you have two children to worry about, I can only suggest to you, as a mom myself to you, a father; that you get her ADMITTED into a facility as soon as you can. I don't know what kind of insurance you have, but I know most insurances cover in-patient addiction recovery. If you don't take this step for her, she could die. It sounds like she's trying to get your attention, a cry for help. I've done some stupid things to get my husband's attention when I've been very depressed. I know what one will do when they feel desperate. She's desperate, Richard. No one has to know where she is. Your kids are little enough still, that a little white lie would do them better than the truth, maybe? Maybe she suddenly had an aunt in another state that needed some help for a month or so. You know what I mean? There are ways of keeping her addiction and recovery private. Maybe you could also go to Al-Anon, a support group for families of alcoholics...... But, seriously consider having her admitted somewhere, soon. She's sad enough, that she is playing a very dangerous game with her life. PLEASE post on the board again, and let me know how it's going. Much, much luck to the two of you getting through this.
I'm confused about who wrote this.... Did the postee mean to say Victoria, or Richard? My reply to Richard was answered with a posting to Victoria.... Please clear up for me?! Victoria