Posted by Frank
on September 22, 2000 at 11:44:00:
In Reply to: Crack and the one I love posted by DC on September 22, 2000 at 00:17:45:
My dear, dear friend,
I fell your pain, I taste your tears,
I know your fear!
Please magnify it 1000 times, and we
will know your friends agony. She is so lost
she does not know what to do. She may seem
distant to you, she may seem arogant to you,
She may seem disinterested in you. She is none
of those things, she is dying inside, a slow and
You must be a special person to not loose
hope in her. You have seen her at her worst
and at her best. Nobody knows her like you.
You may be her last link to freedom. Do not
give up on her. Do not distance yourself,
or show indifference, or anger. One day she will
stop the pain, and you will be happy you waited.
You can not speed up the process, but you can
make it easy on yourself by not feeling helpless.
You need to keep your mind on other things, and
try to keep your life on track.
Get up go to work, or school, keep fit,
have a hobby, eat and sleep right.
Find things to do that you enjoy. Make friends
with people who have had a similar experience.
Your friend envies you and your life, be a good
example for her.
At some point you may have to move on, and only
you will know when, but I hope that she stops
before then. She has beat this demon before,
and she may beat it again. I hope she does.
: My girlfriend or recent ex-girlfriend is using crack. She has become a bitter person who no longers enjoys life. Is there anything that I can do to help her? I have confronted her about her problem. She denies it. She had a problem with crack about 5 years ago. It took her to hell and she found her way out. This time it seems worse. She has only been back on the wagon about 3 months but she is so bitter and depressed this time. I was around for her last crack problem. Of course she did not speak to me for the most of it. This time it is the same. I talk to her and I can see in her eyes she hears but then she disappears. I just don't know what to do. Everyone keeps telling me there is no hope for her.
: Thank you for listening.