Posted by M13
on October 11, 2000 at 17:14:42:
In Reply to: Re: Please Help posted by ROBIN on October 10, 2000 at 01:37:30:
: : Hello all...my boyfriend has been lying to me for over a year..He said he quit drinking but I can smell it on his breath and see the credit card receipts for the vodka. I am not a drinker at all and this really upsets me. His father drinks alot of beer at night so i think it runs in the family. I assume my boyfriend has at least 5 shots of vodka a night. He is only 26 and has been drinking for many years. He also has stomache problems which I believe can from drinking, though he wont go to the dr. I would appreciate any feedback/advise you can offer...I have not admitted to my boyfriend that I know he is drinking again, and I dont know how to bring it up. He gets very defensive and angry if I do bring it up..I love him, but feel this is ruining our relationship (we have been together 2 yrs) thanks in advance, sorry this post is so long.....Dominique
: HI DOMINIQUE,
: I AM NOT THAT FAMILIAR WITH ALCOHOLISM. I DID DATE SOMEONE IN THE SAME SITUATION. IT IS TOTALLY UP TO THEM. HE PROBABLY NEEDS TO HIT ROCK BOTTOM TO REALIZE HIS PROBLEM AND SEEK HELP. I THINK YOU SHOULD CONTACT ALANON. THEY WOULD HAVE MUCH MORE KNOWLEDGE ABOUT THINGS THAT YOU MIGHT BE ABLE TO DO TO HELP HIM. THEY ARE FOR FAMILY AND FRIENDS OF ALCOHOLICS. YOU MIGHT NEED TO PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN AND TAKE A STEP BACK. SOMETIMES IT TAKES LEAVING TO KNOCK SOME SENSE INTO THE OTHER PERSON. GOOD LUCK.
your boyfriend sounds like he may be on the road to alcholisim. by not confronting him you are letting think he is getting away with this deception. confront him with your fears and feelings in a safe place- not at a bar or when he is drunk. also as Robin suggested get in touch with alanon. they can help with further suggestions GOODLUCK