Posted by CHRISTINE
on October 16, 2000 at 14:33:44:
In Reply to: Re: How long does it take to get addicted to heroin? posted by princess on October 16, 2000 at 11:44:32:
: : : : Thank you both for your responses, although it wasn't what I wanted to hear, I'm starting to understamd that it's the truth. He really did get off it last week. I sat with him when he was sick and helped him through a few rough points and by Friday he was physically back to himself. I had an anxiety attack Friday and had to go to the emergency room (gee, I wonder why I'm having anxiety?) and they drew blood. On Saturday, my boyfriend started fiending out a little when he saw my arm where they had taken the blood and then later that night he started fiending out bad because his dealer called. I told him I was there with him and that it would be okay and we would get through it. To make a long story short, I fell asleep at around 4 am and he didn't. After a weird series of events, the last being that I discovered he had taken my car somewhere after I passed out, it became clear to me that he had given in to temptation. Where else would you go at well after 4 in the morning. I guess I have to walk away, but I don't know how. This is the man I wanted to marry and I don't know if I can find the strength to turn away from him. For years he's been the one who was strong for me and now I have to be strong enough to leave him. Thank you both, once again, for your brutally honest responses. The truth hurts, but maybe if I get enough of the truth I'll somehow find the courage to go.
: : : : My boyfriend has been on probation for a drug charge and has been having to take court ordered UA's for months. He's been doing great until he slipped up once and took some Xanax and went on a binge that caused him to come up dirty on his UA and now he will be going to jail for 6 mos. When he found out he was going to jail, he started doing heroin. He had snorted it a few times before we got together, but hadn't done it since then. (I know, I know, everyone says he's probably just been lying about it, but he wasn't because I was there the night he asked another friends who's just coming off of it where to get it AND he's been coming up clean in court for months) He snorted it last Tuesday night and Thursday all day and night I think (he won't tell me much about it and in fact will barely talk to me at all) He started shooting it Friday (which he had never done before) and told me Sunday night and Monday that he was already addicted and having bad withdrawal. My friend that just came off of it said that it was mental, because he wouldn't have physical withdrawal symptoms that fast. Does anyone know how quickly one becomes addicted? He led me to believe Monday that he was ready to quit and get ready for his jail stint. (he has a warrant and they'll be coming to get him anyday) All he has done for the past two days is sleep and from what I have read, this is not generally a withdrawal symptom of heroin. Bottom line, can he really be as addicted as he says he is in just a week? Is his sleep maybe just caused by depression or can it really be the withdrawal? Any help would be greatly appreciated because I'm losing him and I don't know what to do.
: : : It takes about a day....If he says he is addicted then he is. If he is slamming it I would get the hell away from him. How old are you? This is definelty a road that you don't want to take. He might recover when he is in jail but I almost guarantee that he will use again when he gets out. Just leave him and find a really nice guy that doesn't abuse drugs.
: : I agree with the last post,my brother was a junkie(clean 3 years,and still thinks about herion everyday)).His addiction nearly cost him his young life.It turned him into a zombie(and he smelled like one) that would lie,steal or do anything else he had to for his drugs-herion takes your loved ones,turns them into a monster and maybe,just maybe they'll come out of it alive....someday.I wish I was more optimistic for you,I know it's hard to watch someone you love screw their life up so bad but you have to lookout for yourself,get out of there.
My heart totally goes out for you. It is a hard thing to break it off with someone you love. You have to make the decision for you. He is not a person that has the capability to treat you how you need to be treated. Also, remember that you can always choose to go back to him. If he is clean. Don't sacrifice your life for an addict. You will be miserable, I guarantee it. My ex husband is/was a great guy and his choice made him a monster. He lost everything kids/wife/business/self respect/happiness. Addiction is a chronic, progressive disease and the effects of it hurt. I would recommend that you get educated on addiction. When I did this I felt as though a ton of bricks were lifted off my shoulders. I recommend "Freeing Someone You Love From Alcohol and Other Drugs" it is an informative book. Good Luck......If you have any questions you can email me..firstname.lastname@example.org