Posted by Victoria
on November 04, 2000 at 03:36:32:
In Reply to: pot addiction again posted by Tina on November 04, 2000 at 01:03:02:
: Thanks to all who posted to my previous post. I really was angry earlier, however, now I am sad. It has been this way for years. First trying to find a solution to my husband's pot addiction,then being sad because I know there isn't anything that I can do, and then kinda just ignoring it till the next time. Here it is almost one o'clock in the morning and my darling husband is sound asleep because he had his joint before bed and where am I? Sitting at a computer crying my eyes out for the millionth time because I am sexually frustrated and know he will never quit smoking. I originally found this board because he told me this week (for the 100th time) that he was going to quit smoking. And for the 100th time, I believed him. At this point, I get as mad at myself as I do at him. Supposedly it really bothers him that our daughter is upset about his pot smoking and he wants to quit. However, when I mentioned that I had found this board and suggested he talk to someone who has been there he flipped out. He said that he didn't want to talk to anyone about it, that it really isn't something he wants to do, but something that he has to do. Well when he said that, I knew that this was just more of the same BS as always. I went back and read some more of the posts and came across a few that really struck a nerve. He loves pot more than me, and he will never quit unless he WANTS to. I've tried everything from threatening to leaving to kicking him out to just accepting it. Surprise...nothings changed. Guess it is time to move on.
Oh, Tina, I feel for you. I know exactly how you are feeling. No matter what, he is going to try to justify his use. I've posted this before, but bear with me, if I repeat myself.
EXCUSES HE'LL GIVE YOU, AND HOW HE WILL TRY TO JUSTIFY USING POT:
1. "I work hard, so what if I like to get high?"
2. "Would you rather if I were an alcoholic?, at
least I don't sit in bars all night, I'm
home with you & the kids".
3. "I need it to help me sleep".
4. "I'm not addicted, I could quit at any time, I
just choose not to"!
I could go on, but I'm sure you, me, and a lot of others out there have heard it all. I don't know you can make him stop. With me, I just put my foot down, and said "no more". I handle the budget, and I will not take any household money for drugs anymore. If you leave him, and take the kids, of course, by the time he pays child support, he won't have any money to get high. Did he ever think about that?
I wish he would at least read our posts. Maybe by seeing how hard of a time some of us have had, he may realize how bad he is....... Keep us posted, OK?