Posted by cindy tobin
on November 20, 2000 at 23:30:51:
In Reply to: Sex addiction posted by sabel on September 16, 2000 at 14:42:20:
: I am a 26yr old female in a serious relationship with a 32 yr old man.
: I am curious to learn more about the signs of sex addiction. My boyfriend and I are both highly sexual, and I have wondered at times if we are both slightly addicted. My boyfriend also has a very hard time leaving fantasy as fantasy. He has been suggesting a 3-some now for a year, and suggestion has turned into serious begging, even though I am not interested. (I would have been interested more had I not fallen in love with him.)
: He is interested in 3-somes with another girl AND another guy (at different times). Lately, too he has admitted to me that he would like to someday give oral and recieve oral from another man. (this is highly exciting to me!)
: As exciting as some of this is to me, another part of me worries about these desires. I worry because I am in love with this man and we are very serious about staying together and eventually having children.
: My boyfriend is wonderful in many ways, he is caring and compassionate. He can be nurturing too, which I love. But I worry about us getting carried away with all of this sexual stuff. I feel like if we were to open the floodgates to all of these fantasies (bring them into reality) we would be risking jeapordizing our relationship, and eventually be torn apart by these things.
: Any input would be helpful.
sabel, iv'e been in the same situation my husband
demanding having a threesome, and foolish me wanting to please him, i did, and it's never the same afterward's! we have grown apart and now thinking of a seperation, it's normal to be sexual, but keep the fantasy's just fantasy.
get some conceling if your serious about one another. hope this help's. cindy.