Posted by Libra
on October 07, 1999 at 23:54:21:
In Reply to: How do you help someone who doesn't want it but needs it---- posted by Tina-NY on September 16, 1999 at 08:50:33:
: My younger brother was into taking crystal-meth and now does herion. He used to be a good kid but now I wouldn't trust him. He steals anything he can, can not keep a job, lies and can not be trust for anything. He was arrested several times for thieft but got off scott free. He recently stole a town truck and ran. He is somewhere, won't tell us. I only want to help him but he thinks he is fine. I hope to God the police find him and maybe then he will get help. How do you help a person who has this type of problem when they think it is fine and under control. Any info would be great.
I am a recovering methamphetamine addict. I can give you some advise from someone who remembers being where your brother probably is now. Most of my friends turn to me for advise and it helps. I hope I can do the same for you. Be there for your brother. Let him know that whenever he needs to talk to someone who will just listen without judging him or telling him what to do, you will be there. And do just that when he calls. Be very careful not to enable him. An addict will only be able to get the help they need when they are ready. The only way to be ready is to admit you have an addiction. The way to do that, in my opinion, is to convince yourself of it by talking out your problems to unconditional understanding. Then really you hear your own voice admitting signs that something just isn't right here. Mostly the time this can happen is a sober time. It is tough but let him know you are there, unconditonaly. Also, take care of yourself and remember you come first. Just don't put yourself at any risk.
Lots of luck!