Posted by just a person
on October 18, 1999 at 09:13:42:
In Reply to: Re: crack addiction posted by just a person on October 17, 1999 at 15:53:11:
just a person,
Yes I do belive in God! he has gotten me this far. Yes I want to take care of my husband but i also know i can't do it. and like you I could not belive that such a sweet person could say and do the hurtful things he did and still trys to do to me. he knows that seeing him with this other woman hurts me to my heart because he knows how much i love him and he brought her to my house. Our friends or his family understand how I could still love him and want to be with him. Our son does't understand it eighter. But our son loves his dad but won't take any bull from him. Your daughter loves you and I don't think she would ever turn her back on you for any reason. Yes she only wants you to be happy and safe. I don't think my husban will ever hit botton because he will always have someone out there willing to give him a place to live and food to eat or crack to smoke because everyone he hangs with are his friends and family his two nephews and their girlfriends are on it and they are a close family. He will stay with women who smoke crack and they always seem to help him get it. He was out with one for three years and she would go out and steal or turn tricks to get the stuff. I just wonder if they ever get tired of that life? I have tried to go on with my life and tried to forget all about him but I have not been able to do that so far. Yes I need to go see someone who can help me maybe to understand and get past this. I will pray for you and yourlove and with the grace of God we will get through this. Let me know how he gets along. Love,Lost.
: : My husband of several years who I love dearly is now in the streets smoking crack. He blames everyone except one woman who allows the crack dealers to drive her car for crack but she said she has never seen him smoke crack. He said he was not smoking crack eighter. But everyone he hangs with smokes it, so is it possible that he's not? He said no one but this woman has ever cared for him and i know this is crack telling him this? Is there hope for him or is he lost? if and when he gets off this stuff will he remember the people who love him and care about him? i know he has to want to stop and I know he will never say he's on it but is there hope for him? I miss the man he was because he was a good man before this. I hate to think he is lost forever. Is there someone who can tell me about the effects of this, on a person who uses even a couple of days a week? I think it's more but really don't know. HELP Dear person, I don't know if I can help, I do understand what you are going through however. My boyfriend is in a hospital trying to detox from methadone and from shooting cocaine. He has had some clean time in the past, but when he decided to go out.....it took him down fast. He did and said things that I would never have thought possible that such a sweet person could (even under the influence of needing to do more drugs) do. I am worried that my relationship with my daughter will suffer if I stay with him. She is grown, married and has a child. She does not need to be worrying about her mother being killed by a junkie. I have never been around someone who was addicted to street drugs before. And he was a different person when we met. They say that going to alanon(sp.?) can be helpful. I know how lonely you must be feeling. And drug addicts are good at making everyone else be at fault for their using. I hope he can be the person he once was. I have heard, however that crack is a very difficult drug to want to stop using. I know all you want to do is to take care of him, but who will take care of you? Was he thinking of you when he traded your relationship and love in for a hit of crack? It takes the soul out of an otherwise wonderful person. I don't know if you believe in God......but praying couldn't hurt. He, your husband may have to lose everything before he seeks help. It is a long shot that he will never use again. He may want to, but it takes a full time commitment to keeping clean and it is a lot of work. Please take care of yourself. Maybe there is a clinic or counselor who would be available for you. I wish you luck and send you love. I hope your husband will come home......and I hope my sweetheart does the same.......kickunit