Posted by tired
on October 22, 1999 at 08:50:24:
In Reply to: Re: crack addiction posted by just a person on October 18, 1999 at 09:13:42:
I know the pain you must feel, my husband is surviving crack addiction. He went through the rehab and did ok for almost a year until he relapsed a couple weeks ago. It never goes away even when they stop. The longing for it is an every day thing. Wanting to stop is only a step. It is a physical addiction. Their body has a physical need for it after the first time. I've learned a lot from rehab, but the most important thing that I learned is that none of it was my fault, nothing I said or did could have stopped him, and I believe it was a lot of praying that made him see he needed help. He wanted to stop, but he couldn't. Your husband has no control over crack and can't just quit. It doesn't work that way. You can't bring yourself down because of this. You are wasting your life trying to fix his and in the end you will realize it was all for nothing. No matter how much you love him, unless he wants to stop and seeks help, your love is for nothing. It may sound harsh, but if you think about all you've given and still got no results I think you will see what I mean. If you want to save your sanity you may just have to give up. If he wants to stop bad enough he will seek help. Then you can learn to be a supporter without being an enabler. I wait every day for my husband to come home knowing that this may be the day that he surrenders to the pipe. We have the agreement that if he goes back again, he won't come home. I hate to think it will come to that, but he told me that reality is, if he does it again he will never stop. This is a reality that all of us who love an addict must face no matter how hard it is. Good luck to you and pray for your husband. It really is the only way.