Posted by Muse
on April 14, 2000 at 05:23:24:
In Reply to: A.A. posted by Charles on April 13, 2000 at 10:21:21:
Charles, I agree about AA meetings, not to slam them, as they are fine for plenty of folks.
But I dislike them too.
A suggestion if you like it is you might go to a 12 step group at a church, as the atmosphere is usually clean of smoke and the focus is on healing the spirit (mind) to help clean up the addictive personality instead of exchanging bad habits for more "acceptable" ones.
Just visit different ones til you find one that allows you space to be where you are at and does not pressure you. That is an atmoshere one can grow in...they are out there. I have been in some really good recovery support groups at churches.
I have been helped tremendously.
FYI: I was the enabler codependent personality.
I still am learning not to be that way. Remember it is all a process, no one just arrives. I admire your honesty and your concern for your wife...you are on your way. Don't give up!