Posted by rebecca
on April 16, 2000 at 13:33:05:
In Reply to: Re: A.A. posted by Muse on April 14, 2000 at 05:23:24:
I was an aa member for 8 years and still attend occasionally. But I found that (for me) the negatives outweighed the positives, especially when it came to strange men (and women) being intrusive and arrogant. I have attended many meetings throughout the years, and it is important to remember there are no rules in AA and the only requirement for "membership" is a desire to stop drinking. That's it. I sit and listen, read the literature, and read the AA Grapevine, a nice little magazine that aa publishes. As far as the know-it-alls who espouse one thing and do another, I ignore them. Unfortunately, BECAUSE of them, I sometimes need to avoid meetings to take care of myself.
: Charles, I agree about AA meetings, not to slam them, as they are fine for plenty of folks.
: But I dislike them too.
: A suggestion if you like it is you might go to a 12 step group at a church, as the atmosphere is usually clean of smoke and the focus is on healing the spirit (mind) to help clean up the addictive personality instead of exchanging bad habits for more "acceptable" ones.
: Just visit different ones til you find one that allows you space to be where you are at and does not pressure you. That is an atmoshere one can grow in...they are out there. I have been in some really good recovery support groups at churches.
: I have been helped tremendously.
: FYI: I was the enabler codependent personality.
: I still am learning not to be that way. Remember it is all a process, no one just arrives. I admire your honesty and your concern for your wife...you are on your way. Don't give up!