Posted by Julie
on July 01, 2000 at 15:31:10:
My mother is 90+ and broke her hip in January, then after being home for a few eeks, she fell again and fractured the tibia in the same leg. She is now home again and I am her caregiver. I have quit all work and am doing the best I can. She is doing quite well, but still goes through many times of just wanting to "get it over with". Somedays I think she is actually going through the process of dying, of letting go. Her short term memory is not good, but long term - wow! Is there any "general" sequence that the elderly apparently go through in the process of dying? Odd question? Perhaps. But I am exhausted trying to keep up with what each day may or may not bring. I hear that people stop eating, push family members away and various other things. Mom has to use a walker now but is going through periods of being quite hostile, doing things that puts herself into hazardous situtations of falling yet again, etc. I have to watch her all the time when she's awake, and am now getting to where I waker up at every sound throughout the night as she gets up and tries this or that. Any info from others who may have experienced caring for the elderly would be greatly appreciated. Sorry about this loonngggg... message, but I am at my wits ends. Reading "The 36 Hour Day" has been some help, and am praying for patience. Thank you.