Posted by Grams
on October 17, 2000 at 19:45:12:
In Reply to: Aging posted by Donna on October 17, 2000 at 18:26:18:
: My mother is 77 years old and she and my father have just recently sold their house and moved into senior citizen condo. Within the past few months, her personality has changed drastically. She is always depressed and nothing seems to make her happy. She has gradually been alienating her family and finds insignficant reasons to be angry with us. Her hearing is getting progressively worse and she has developed a nevous habit of constantly picking at her skin. My father is 79 and also seems unhappy all the time but I believe this is just from living with my mother. He seems to support everything she does no matter how irrational it may be. We have tried to have their family physician intervene to no avail. She insists there is absolutely nothing wrong with her and we are just picking on her. We really need some help. There is no way to diagnose her symptoms if she refuses medical help.
Donna, it sounds as if ur parents r depressed. I don't know exactly how long they've been out of their home and moved into the condo. Whose idea was it that they give up their home, theirs or their family's? Maybe they r having regrets about giving up their independence. Do they still drive and still see their friends from before? Or have they been "forced" to make new friends? Maybe they feel like they no longer have a life and r just giving up. Do they have the same activities that they had prior to their move? They probably need some counseling to help them adjust. Is there a pastor/priest that they trust to talk to openly? Maybe they have some sort of resentment about the move that they don't feel they can openly discuss with their child/children. There r a lot of unaswered questions that may have bearing on their actions. I hope u get them some counseling of some type so u can get at the root of the problem. Good luck!