Posted by Maria
on October 15, 1999 at 19:39:55:
Hello, my father is 63 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer a few years back. Although, he believes he has had it for 10+ years. My mother 71 is his primary caregiver. The problem regarding this, is that my mother is verbally abusive to dad and does not let him live his life, even though he is still capable of doing little things.
Perfect example would be gardening. She yells at him constantly, rolls her eyes, talks behind his back (in front of him) and is making the last few years of his life Hell. He has even "run away" from home a couple of times because he has been so angry with her. I'm sure it is frustrating for my mom, but the situation is getting out of hand. I am the only daughter who lives in another state and have never had a great relationship with my mother. Besides I have 2 children under the age of two, so traveling is not a convenient option. None of the other kids have the guts to tell her she is being horrible to my dad. What should I do? I want the last years that my dad remembers to be a positive experience. Is there a way to separate them without it costing a lot of money? I need all the advice or resources I can get. I'd appreciate any help possible. Thank you!