Posted by Laura Vaughn
on March 23, 2000 at 07:01:11:
My mother (68yrs) has been diagnosed w/AD. My youngest half brother from
her second marriage has her living with his family. I have 3 other sisters
from my moms first marriae. All siblings grew up together with our mother
and my brothers father. Both fathers are deceased.
Since my brother and SIL have taken over they have not informed us of my
moms health at all. Once this Christmas mom was still living w/ my youngest
sister and was rushed to the hospital. My SIL told my sister not to call any
of us . Had it not been for my SIL spurting out in a fit of anger to my
sister a few weeks ago we would have not known she even had AD. They knew
for 4 months.
To complicate this matter my younger sister has financially and emotionally
become dependent on our mother as she is mentally slow. Kimmy cannot
function in the real world. She is 40 yrs old. 8 yrs ago My mom bought a
4plex apartment building in which mom and my sister lived in one. My mother
said she wanted to make sure Kimmy had a place to live in when she passed
My mother went to live w/my brother and his family 1 month ago. When she
left my SIL informed my older sister that our younger sister would have to
move out. This week they insist on her moving. So they can sell the 4 plex.
My SIL in front of my mom accused my older sister of not caring if my mom
died right in front of our mother. She is constantly saying none of care.
Now I am not familiar at w/AD up until now...but to tell a AD person that
her children do not care what happens to her will that progress the disease.
I feel this is not a heathy to care for my mother. I worry what this will do
tpo my moms already shaky state of mind. We (sisters) are not welcome to
visit our mother...The SIL is very nasty to us...and my mom is getting like
her. My mother never got along at all w/SIL so I find it hard to believe
she would subject herself to being under her care.
We have 2 concerns Our mothers welfare, and our sister who will be left out
in the cold. Now of course we sisters will not allow that to happen but
financially we will have no help from our mom. Our mom thinks we want her
money and that we will steal from her apartment...I am sure it is this AD
condition but I also feel there is allot of things being put in her head
from brother and SIL. Why else will they not reveal anything to us about
her. To think they would allow her to think like that about us is bizarre
unless they want her to. WE do not want her money we want to have our given
right as her children to have a relationship with our mother. This is
driving me crazy..
Sorry for the book I wrot I just need some coaching..;lauraV