Posted by Jack
on July 28, 2000 at 12:38:03:
In Reply to: Need Help for a friend posted by Kathy on July 28, 2000 at 00:09:06:
: Hi All
: I need some answers for a dear friend of whose mother has the horrid disease.She is in 2nd stage we think.She is becoming more and more helpless.My friend wants to continue taking care of her mother but she has two small chidren of her own and she also is in not that great or health herself. The doc is saying that her mother is going to need 24hr care soon and she will need to be in an assisted care facility.
: She is feeling guilty because her mother will not understand why and she says she will feel abandon and that is true she will feel that way even though shwe will not be What can i tell her to help, my friend says that most alzhiemers patients are taken care of by their grown children is that true? I'm afraid that she will feel too bad and too guilty and not a good daughter if she does put her in a facility
: Any advice would really be appreciated..
: Thank -you Kathy
Hello, Kathy, I understand what your friend and you are going through. I myself have a friend whose grandmother has Alzheimer's. He take care of her himself because he can afford to take the time out needed. But If it were someone like me who has a regular work, it'd be a real strain on the both persons and their relationship, no matter how much you love them and want to take care of them. It is best to seek professional help, they're trained and have the necessary time and resources. Best of luck to you and your friend.