In Reply to: Want to talk to someone going through the same thing posted by DY on December 06, 2000 at 19:32:48:

: Have had RA for over 20 years , married and have a six year old. Going through a hard time. Very tired no energy My little one is realizing I can't do certain things such as run after her. So she's using my disability to try and get away with stuff. I get so frustrated when RA prevents me from doing things. I just need someone to talk with the same situation.

Hey,

I have RA and a three year old son.

Since the day he was born I promised myself that he would understand my illness and the medication I take.

He comes and kisses my hands and things better. He understands that I take meddication to make me feel better and he is so good in the morning and at night when I feel the worst.

I surround myself with people who can play with him which means a close relationship with the family. He attends Nursery school everyday.

I play quiet and educational games with him, which is fun.

I am strict but fair and I always make sure he knows I love him very much.

It is very hard knowing I will never be able to play with him the way I would like. I do not feel like I miss anything though, I hope his understanding grows with him and hopefully he will have a brother or sister soon.

Do not feel sorry for yourself it just gets you down but feel glad for what you have.