Posted by Angie in Ohio
on October 17, 2000 at 21:15:17:
In Reply to: I'm at the end of my rope, please somebody help...... posted by s c's mom on October 17, 2000 at 15:34:57:
: I have a son with autism who is 6. He's a noisemaker. He's a video talker, he rewinds the VCR every 2 minutes and watches the same thing over and over and over. I've got a 2 year old who is "typically 2" some say, I say Bullshit! He's become afraid of things all of a sudden, roads, bugs, carpet, elevators....he was so perfect and now...boom, he won't entertain himself, he cries because I didn't get the right color cup for him, he wanted choc. milk and I fixed him tea, he wanted peanut butter and I gave him ham sandwich, he asks for something, I get it, he throws it, he cries, I can't take it!!! I'm living with autism and I don't particularly care for it, but my goodness, this is horrible. He's been doing the oppositional stuff now for about 16 months, the fears just appeared, what do I do? I don't have the nerves for this!!!!!!!!!! I can't raise 2 sons that are so demanding. I've got a husband and 2 stepdaughters and they are losing me. I don't know what else to do. I cry when they have wrecked me so bad and they don't even think anything of it. I need help. I don't have insurance now, (my husband has just started a new job, we won't have insurance in place for a few more months,) I am at the end of my rope, I find myself yelling, crying, I've gained weight, I feel helpless . I love to have a clean house, I can't even get that done, they wreck it in 5 minutes flat. The baby touches everything, vaccuum cleaner bags torn off the vaccuum, food ripped out of packages, poop and pee on the floor, both will poop in their pants, my son with autism is doing so much better and wam!!!! along comes the 2 year saying, "oh, no, you're not done with cleaning crap off this floor mama!! I'll show you"!!! Where do I turn? I'm losing myself, my marriage, my kids and my sanity. I am seriously considering admitting myself into a psychiatric ward somewhere just to get a break, please someone, tell me who can help me!! I live in central GA area and am at my wits end. Nervous Breakdown here I come!!!!
Hello, I know exactly how you are feeling right now, been there and done that. I have cleaned the crap out of the toy box and off of the floor. My son is now 16yr. and I am here to tell you things will get better. You need to seek some kind of help for yourself before you can be beneficial for the others in your house. Since you do not have ins. right now, I suggest that you try to get some respite care in your area or have someone watch your children for awhile while you get away, even if it is for a walk, a trip to the store or some alone time, or to go out with friends. And don't sweat the small stuff, Yes, you may love to have a perfectly clean house, but it is not going to be so don't worry about it. You are not the only person in that house and others need to help out, you need to appoint jobs to others in the house. My son loves to rinse the dishes and put them away to earn money, sure he may not get ALL of the soap off at first or put them away in the right spot, but so big deal, he is doing something to earn money and help out! And I have found if you can go without getting upset it helps to calm the others around you, Count to ten before getting upset, it works, and also it may help your children count, it did my son, when he would start to throw one heck of a fit while we were out, I would just put things down and say "Lets go" this would get him more mad, because I didn't buy the certain item and then when I said it was because of his behavior this made him more mad, I stayed calm, talked calmly and just continued to drive home.