Posted by Matt
on July 29, 2000 at 11:10:09:
In Reply to: Re: What causes autism? posted by Maria on July 25, 2000 at 14:14:15:
: : Hello everybody. You might remember that I came her asking about my friend's son who I suspected had Autism. Well, unfortunetly it looks like I was right. She took her son to the doctor and they diagnosed him. But now she is very depressed, like his autism is her fault and she could have done something to prevent it. So I would like to know, how does it start? What causes it?
: As a mother of an Autistic child of course the mothers/parents feel guilty .But please tell you friend that it is certainly not her fault. Remember that her baby was sent special from above and is no different that any other child except that he just needs special love and attention. The doctors feel that children are born with this disability,that it takes place very early on in pregnancy, but it dosen't show up until 18 months to 2 years of age. that is when the parents see noticable difference. Tell you friend to get her child involved with an Early Intervention Program, and ABA (Applied Behavior Anaylsis)My child has been involved with this since he was 2 1/2...he is now 4...he can speak, sing, say the alphabet, potty trained, request things that he wants, etc...hopefully if all goes well he will be in pre-school next year and maintstreamed the next. Tell your friend there is light at the end of the tunnel!!! She needs to call the County she lives in to see what services they have, and to get involoved with organizations in her area.Good Luck and tell her to keep the faith!!!!
I don't know what causes authism but my daughter is 7 years old. The guilt that your freind is feeling is very common. It took 6 years before 1 doctor out of 10 to simply tell us that we did nothing wrong and there was nothing we could have done to prevent it.
We've had our daughter in everykind of therapy that was suggested. My daughter is still non - verbal, not potty trained but loves life more than anyone I know. I just didn't want you to think that everything would eventually turn out so perfect after reading some of the other stories. All I could say is keep trying and never stop!