Posted by sarah
on September 12, 2000 at 18:22:31:
In Reply to: My son hates me posted by ck on September 12, 2000 at 07:42:38:
: I have a son aged 13 with autism.My husband is very strict with him, and does not allow him to make any mistakes without shouting at him etc.I feel he is being 'controlled' too much.My son is very quiet when his dad is around but when he is not he is terrible with me, he pinches me, hits his sister,screams and ignores any requests.People cannot understand why he is so badly behaved with me.I try to be very fair with him and reward the good things but he still is so angry/hyper with me.I have told my husband that I think he is too 'controlling and that I think my son is getting his frustration re this out on me.Last year my husband went away for 4 weeks and my son was uncontrollable, screaming ,demanding and destructive. I nearly cracked up! I am so worried if he goes away this year what will happen. My son cannot 'cope' when his dad is not around. I feel he cannot cope with closeness, love and affection.(I feel like leaving him and his dad sometimes) I want to love him mostly but he ignores me.
What a lot to deal with! I'm no expert but if it were me I would get counselling with my husband first and then with all the family. This is not good at all and your son is getting bigger, what will happen when he is bigger and stronger than you. I fell this must be nipped in the butt asap. I wish you all the best with this as it will take time and work.Best Wishes Sarah