Originally Posted by sabro77
I'm not planning on telling her about when I do it, but I don't want to lie to her when she asks. Or should I? I'm not sure on how to include her without making her feel excluded.
When I'm at work, and the head of my department asks me "How's it going?" he expects a heads up on the various projects that I'm working on at the time, including any projectected obstacles and problems. When the president of the company walks by and says "How's it going?" he expects me to say "Just fine," which translates "Whatever I'm faced with, I can handle, so don't worry your pointy little head about anything." Am I lying to him? Nope. There are different languages for different situations, and you need to decide what is appropriate for the given context.
While there are always exceptions to any generalization, I don't think it's much of a stretch to state the obvious: Men view sex, and sexual stimulation, differently than women. That's why discussions about pornography and masturbation always end up the same way: bad translations that miss the point. My wife doesn't understand what turns me on, nor does she want to "understand" it. She acknowledges it, accepts it, is glad she's part of it, and is happy that she can help make it happen. Understanding isn't really part of the bargain.