I don't know a lot about herpes. I'm on my second outbreak and trying to understand it all. I hope you aren't in too much pain, and that your partner has been supportive to you.
I have a similar question, though, and you phrased it perfectly: "How do I have herpes, and he doesn't?"
How did my boyfriend get just three little tiny bumps once, that itched but never spread or got worse, and quickly went away? That was at the time of my first outbreak, which appeared a couple of days later and almost was the end of me! We sleep together regularly
and yet somehow, I've just had my second outbreak and he didn't have anything and doesn't now while I do? How do I have so much pain and suffering, and he seems pretty much unaffected by it all?