06-24-2005, 04:56 PM
Join Date: Nov 2004
Re: My best-friend is being abused!!
Originally Posted by Mario412
But how old is your friend?
He is 25
Does he accept an abusive girlfriend himself?
I think he settles for it because he is lonely but through alot of his friends *and me* getting together and talking to him he said last night he is leaving her for good, so i hope it works because he deserves better..
If so, it's sad but it's his own choice. The cops might not take it seriously (only and only if he didn't want to press charges) not because they think it's normal!!!!
I'm the one who called the cops & she was yelling at my friend in front of them & she came really close to being arrested because she started to yell at the cop & he told her....."I'm not him..You're not going to talk to me that way, He may put up with it but i wont"
Anyhow..He just packed all his stuff and moved into his own place and left her so i think it's over but time will tell..
But if it's repeated then I don't think that she can get away with it. The thing is he does not want her arrested, and I think he's a jerk himself for not wanting to stop itsorry if I sound harsh .
He is the nicest person i've ever met in my life and he has only had 2 girlfriends..His 1st girlfriend had cancer and he was with her every minute until the day she passed away. I think he always tries to look at the good in people & feels sorry for them, When he should be more concerned with his own well being..
Then as others suggested, he needs counselling. I think that if I were you I would try to convince him to seek help/counselling and be safe. That's all you can do' turning up there and help him to get her arrested will get you nowhere cause he obviously and sadly doesn't want it!
I have invited him to group therapy with me and our friends...Over coffee and hours of chatting in a cafe i think he is starting to realize what he would get into if he stayed..
I'm just glad it's over...Even though he cried all day..