Re: b/f doesn't seem to be aroused
Don't be too hard on yourself or on him. A lot of things can affect erections -- especially stress, worry, levels of tiredness. And it is true that if you've both fallen into certain patterns, you may need to shake things up a bit and get out of your routines. Routines can affect the level of erotic passion. Why don't you try initiating things? You say you rarely do. Maybe your partner needs to feel that you desire him. That might be a turn-on for him.