I agree - push it in as far as you can. Just tell your bf on the front end that it is in there and he may or may not feel it. He should be understanding about it. Mine says that sometimes he can feel it, sometimes he can't - but either way he doesn't mind it at all. I have found that rarely during sex it will work its way down, but I just shove it back in and life is good! I have also taken it out before sex, though this isn't recommended because you should only have it out 3 hours at the time and I tend to forget about it until the next morning.