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Old 10-22-2006, 05:29 PM   #1
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Question made a friend with bipolar angry, help

A friend of mine is bipolar and I said something that made her angry or maybe it was hurt. We were talking, laughing on the phone then something I said triggered an emotion I never seen before in her. I'm not sure how I said it or even what I said, but she said I through her for a loop and needed some space and she hates when she's like this. I'm very sorry for hurting her and I've tried talking to her, but she won't talk or look at me. We work together and it's been 2 weeks and now she went to the head manager and complained I'm harrassing her. I never expected this from her. I know she has many issues she deals with from people in her life, but I don't understand whats going on in her head. I'm really trying to understand, I want to. She is tough on the outside, but fragile on the inside. I've read articles on bipolar and she had told me what she goes through and how she feels. I know she can be very moody, but she has never acted this way towards me. We have only been friends for a year, but i have always tried to be there for her. Recently she has been helping me deal with some problems and she is the only one of my friends that I have been able to open up to. Maybe because she knows how it feels to have ups and downs; she even talked me into seeing a therapist next week. She has been there for me and wanted me to call her whenever I felt I needed help or to talk. So with everything going on with me lately, I'm just trying to figure out how to deal with her. I'm confused with how she is reacting and don't know how to fix it. I have realized now that she needs her space. Many people have said to leave her alone and maybe she'll come around. These people do not know she is bipolar. She is almost like a walking time bomb around me and I didn't do or say anything that bad to cause this. How do I deal with this? Does someone with bipolar get into this mood and never get out of it? or is it time and space what she needs? I miss our friendship but I don't want to push her into hating me. Please help me into understanding what I can do or shouldn't do. I want to understand more about being bipolar, this is why I'm writing here for the first time.