Re: Long distance relationship--with no resolution
And are both of you single or still married? If both of you or one of you is married, then obviously the first thing to do is to get a divorce.
But I don't understand him. Does he want you to leave everything (everyone) behind and go to him? Is this fair? What about your kids? It is almost always easier for a man with kids, for kids usually stay with their moms.
By the way, have you ever met this man personally? If not, he can be simply a mirage.
And why is he giving you an ultimatum? How long has this affair going on? Do your kids (husband?) know about it?
It seems that you are totally in love with him, but unless I am wrong, he doesn't seem to be on the same wavelength. Unless you have made a promise to him and are not able to keep it now, his pushing you for a decision is much harder than the physical distance between you.
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