Truth be told, she ISN'T under a lot of stress. Well she has work, but she is really self centered. If it doesn't concern mom it isn't a big deal. That's been her mind set since my sister was old enough to 'take care of herself.' Fourteen is too young to have to take on the world. If they were to live with me it would be for them and not her...I think she would know that too.
My boyfriend and I just bought a big ol' country house with three bedrooms. We have the room but we are also TTC. This makes my head spin and my heart heavy