Originally Posted by menoblues
I have been inserting Vagifem tablets and using lubricating cream for a couple of years and am still experiencing vaginal pain on penetration. My husband and I have had 20+ years of good to great sex. Now, I feel embarrassed, humiliated and scared. I'm afraid of the pain and don't want to have sex even when I have the desire to have sex. Before I began experiencing the pain (a couple of years ago) I did notice a decrease in my desire. I am perimenopausal, mid 50s with regular periods. How do I get rid of the pain? Does it go away after menopause, or does it get worse? Is there an effective way to regain desire? I don't want a sexless marriage. I worry about how this will affect my husband and if he will still want to be with me.
Hi, Menoblues -- you helped me with vag. dryness ques. -- Anyway, I never had any pain with intercourse until I went off of hrt. I couldn't believe the pain! To counter it, we used a ton of Vagisil Intimate Lubricant Clear Lotion. We must have reapplied it a half dozen times, but it worked. I like it also because it is ph balanced and contains vit. e plus aloe.
From what I understand, vaginal dryness is with us forever after menopause. Maybe, with using the Vagisil and having longer foreplay, the problem may decrease. Take care.
P.S. I had the same feeling about being desired after this occurred. Having an open and honest discussion about may help.