Originally Posted by Ash21488
Hi could anyone please help me with some good advice, recently i had a girl in my bed and when we was kissing and stuff i could feel myself get hard. But when it came to the sex part i couldnt for life of me get hard and was really embarresed. Then about 3 weeks after i found myself in bed with another girl and it happend again no movment at all untill the next morning when i woke but by that time she wasnt intrested. I know its nerves but its getting anoying cos i cant control it i try relaxing and feel relaxed but still dont happen could u anyone please help by the way im 18 years of age.
This is absolutely the norm for your first time and for a 18-year-old. I think there are at least three "solutions" for your case:
1. Make the preliminaries last as long as possible. Don't haste into penetration, but rather explore the girl's body as best as you can and allow yourself to be explored as well.
2. Practice masturbation.
3. Let yourself be led by the girl. Ask her what to do next. This will show her that you are concerned about her and her feelings.
A fourth piece of advice:
Fall in love first. Don't simply make sex, but make love with someone you love.