| | very bad time with my alcoholic fiance...have tried everything
Hi all...I've posted before about my fiance, who is an alcoholic. I've been with him almost two years and I am at my wits end. Every time I throw him out of our apartment, and am ready to end it for good, he comes back, or his mother calls and puts me on a guilt trip about how she's an old woman and can't deal with him anymore, and doesn't want him at her house drunk. ( He always ends up going back to mommy's house when I tell him I want him gone if he can't stop drinking. ) I have tried everything, from being ultra supportive to tough love. I can't call the police because my neighbors in my apartment complex don't want him around either, and have called the management office to complain. The office then sent me a letter informing me that if there is any trouble, or police coming to my apartment, I'll be evicted with five days to pack up and leave. I haven't had any problems there since he left the last time, and I can't have him standing outside screaming or ringing the buzzer, or being in our apartment drunk. The neighbors have called the police because of him doing this before. I told both him and his mother that if he wants to continue drinking and not get help, then he needs to find his own place and live on his own, that I'm not taking him back. The longest he stayed sober was a month and a half, and we were finally getting things back together, then he started drinking again. He puts all the guilt trips on me about true love meaning me sticking by him through anything. But he does the most awful things when he drinks and I can't deal with it anymore, nor do I want to. The latest incident occured when I came home from work and he told me he got up from a nap (he'd been drinking, I found out) and peed all over our bedroom floor and my comforter and bedding, thinking he was in the bathroom. I took his keys and threw him out. He's been holed up at his mother's house drunk ever since. He has also failed to give me any rent money when he was living with me, leaving me to pay all the bills and rent and food on my own. Then he added to it by causing the peeing mess and leaving me to clean it all up and pay to launder everything. I took money right out of his wallet, because he was refusing to pay me back for gas and cigarettes I foolishly bought him, with the promise that he'd give me the money for that and food shopping when he got paid. He'd just end up wasting all his money on bars and state stores anyway. He's done it before. My question is, am I wrong for finally wanting this to be over for good? I can see that he's never going to change and straighten up and stop drinking for good. Short of moving away myself and hiding, what can I do? Thanks for reading all this.