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Old 12-01-2007, 08:54 AM   #2
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Re: Strange facial hair

Simon,

So glad to try to offer you some advice my brother.. Only men know the deep feeling and emotion involved with wanting to grow a proper beard. You sound almost exactly as I was when I was your age. Take heart in knowing that many, many men go through what you are exeperiencing, and that it's quite normal though not desired. I think it's safe to say that those of us who really want to grow a great looking beard want it as soon as we think we're old enought to have facial hair, and that's around the age of 16-17. Maybe we want our beards to be full and perfect right away. The thing is only a few men are blessed with the genetics to have full beards at a very young age, and most do not. I remember a guy I went to high school with that had a full healthy beard in high school. I remember being so envious of him..

What I'm trying to get around to saying is it looks like you are going to be like me, and that your beard will develop over a long period of time. I'm 43 years old now and kept my first beard at the age of 41. That is how long it took my beard to mature and to satisfy the eyes of its owner, and believe me, I'm a tough customer to please. I feel I know what looks alright and what doesn't. My advice to you is don't worry over what you can't grow because there is next to nothing you can do about it, it's a genetic thing. What you can do is grow and wear proudly what you can grow. Since you say your moustache is nice and thick, grow it out and wear it. Maybe grow a goatee also and sport that. But if your sides are weak don't even try to grow them out yet. Boast what you've got that's strong and hopefully over time you'll be able to grow a nice, healthy, thick full beard. Believe me I know what you feel concerning the intense desire that comes with wanting a nice full beard.

I've shared this with many, but some men have to work at cultivating their beards, and that takes time. Hopefully in a few years your sides will develop and you can acheive what you want. In the meantime be proud of what you can grow.

Best of luck to you.


-h