Re: Advice please on beginnings of incontinence?
My mother had two different kinds of incontinence. She could hold her urine forever, but the time came when she didn't know where to go when she had to. That's when she had accidents. She refused to wear adult pampers, and not until she went to the NH was that solved.
Then she had bad reactions to both Aricept and Namenda (tried at different times) causing such sudden diarrhea that she could not make it to the bathroom. That wasn't really incontinence except from the point of view that after it had happened she went on with whatever she had been doing, like eating Thanksgiving dinner at her grandson's house....
That was solved as soon as she was taken off those drugs.
But there were still bizarre happenings I never could explain, like small pieces of excrement winding up in other places than the toilet, or soiled underwear stashed away in her dresser.
Basically it was a huge improvment when she was watched by nurses and aides all day and changed as soon as there was any sign of need. Strangely, she accepted adult diapers the day she got to the NH. No protest at all.
Good luck with it.